Night With The Stars
January 10, 2015, 7 - 10 pm
Special Needs Dance
Grand Haven Community Center
421 Columbus, Grand Haven 49417
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Ten Helpful Hints for Visitors for the Holidays to Household with a Family Member with Autism
#1- CALL AHEAD This may seem like a no-brainer, but its HUGE!! People with autism thrive in structured environments. But when the 'out of the ordinary' happens, it can cause terrible anxiety. So popping in is a no-no. Please call ahead so that the family KNOWS you're coming
#2- ASK Ask the person with autism (or their family) if they are sensitive to sound, should you speak quietly. Are they sensitive to touch? Is it better to give them a big bear hug or to just gently touch their hand? Find out the best way to interact with the autistic person. That way, when you meet, you WILL interact.
#3 BRING SOMETHING Its the holidays, if you are planning on bringing gifts, ASK what the person with autism enjoys! Can you bring something that will break the ice? I know a young man who will love you immediately if you walk in with a can of Sprite. He doesn't drink it, just collects them. But you have a friend for life if you show up with that can. Maybe you can bring some treats or food for a meal. Ask, find out what is needed, and wanted
#4 FIND OUT THE RULES OF THE HOUSE These often differ in an autism household, out of necessity. Perhaps doors are locked to keep people in (wandering is a common problem in autism households), if that;s the case, make SURE you lock the door behind you.
#5 AGREE AHEAD OF TIME HOW LONG YOUR VISIT WILL BE.And make it clear that if the parents feel that their child is overwhelmed that they can let you know and you can cut the visit short, even if its only been five minutes since you arrived
#6 COME WITH A SENSE OF HUMOR Sometimes very strange things happen in Autism Households. Like kids suddenly taking all their clothes off, or sudden loud noises, or internal thoughts being voiced out loud, or someone insisting they want to take your shoes off and play with your socks. Who knows. But understand, we see these behaviors everyday. They are not odd to us, in fact, we often find them endearing or see the humor in them or we feel pride in this newly acquired skill. And so should you
#7 DON'T EXPECT A CLEAN HOUSE really. just don't
#8 YOU MAY HAVE TO OCCUPY YOURSELF for an indeterminate amount of time. Sometimes our children can become overwhelmed, and may need a lot help decompressing. Sometimes that decompressing is necessarily provided separately from the group. And sometimes the care that is needed comes up unexpectedly. So expect it. Bring a book and keep yourself busy. It will make our lives a lot easier to know you understand, and can wait patiently while we tend to our children.
#9 REMEMBER THAT THE PERSON WITH AUTISM IS A PERSON Even someone who is non-verbal should be spoken to, not spoken at, or spoken of. Just because they don't communicate in a language you understand does not mean they do not understand you.
#10 UNDERSTAND HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE You would not be invited, or your invitation for a visit accepted, if you weren't special. By accepting you into our home, we are letting you know we TRUST you. We trust that you will treat us and our child with love and respect, and you are important enough for us to want to share our family life with you. We don't do that for any old Tom Dick or Harriet So remember that you are not there to visit us out of pity, or to give us a break (we'd love a break, but not when you're visiting!). You are there because you are special to us, and we believe you will see just how special our child is too.
Contributed by Lisa Pollard ABA and Respite Services Blogger
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